Thursday, April 13, 2017
Review: Collateral Damage:Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce by:Dr. John T. Chirban
About the Book:
Based on research from more than 10,000 surveys from children and parents of divorce, Collateral Damage presents parents with an overview of the impact that divorce has on their children and offers ways to better serve their needs at this critical time.
Approximately fifty percent of marriages in the United State fail. Add to that the increasing number of couples who never marry, have children together, and later go their separate ways. In all of these scenarios, children suffer greatly—often in silence, as parents do not know how to effectively guide their kids. When the sorrow and emotional issues of children are not addressed, the cycle of divorce is likely to continue for them and in generations that follow. In addition, while children may appear to be resilient and adjusting, without proper support children of divorce are more prone to drug and alcohol abuse, criminal behavior, mental and physical illness, and suicide. How can parents manage their own hurt, shock, anger, and despair so that they can provide their children with what they need?
Collateral Damage sounds a wakeup call for parents. It identifies the landmines inherent in the dangerous terrain of divorce and equips them to help their children not to feel abandoned or unheard. Topics covered include:
Building the family—not losing it
Tuning into your kids
Maintaining parent/child roles
Avoiding the parenting handoff
Keeping kids out of the war zone
Keeping open lines of communication
Attuning to guiding, spiritual resources
The failure of a marriage does not mean the end of the family. Providing a stable, supportive, healthy relationship with your child demonstrates what a loving relationship looks like, better preparing them for intimate relationships and marriage as an adult.
I have seen first hand the damage that divorce can cause. I have also seen where its generational. I have seen many generational curses that carry on in a family and destroy so many lives. It is time we stand up and put an end to it. For the sake of our children, grand children and great grand children and beyond. But for those families that see divorce as the only way out they need to guide their children through the emotional damage that it has caused them so that this is not repeated in their lives as they grow up and have families of their own.
Collateral Damage:Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce is a really good guide for those families that don't want divorce to damage their children and the relationships that they will have down the road. The parents having a good relationship beyond the divorce is detrimental to the children's well-being. The author takes the many questions that the parents have and he shows you the best ways to get around the tough stuff with ease for the sake of your children.
An excellent way to ease the pain of divorce for your family!
**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from the author. All opinions are my own.